The Curse of More: Do you do this too?
- Ushmi Dosaja
- Oct 2, 2025
- 1 min read

I KEEP DOING THIS THING...
Falling into the trap of thinking I need to be more than who I am to be visible with my work in the world.
**More intelligent
**More expert
**More credible
**More inspiring
**More mainstream
**More put together
More…more…more…
And it’s suffocating. And quite frankly mean. To myself.
Because when flow appears I tell her she’s not welcome today. What she has to say is simply not inspiring enough.
And when revelation comes through I tell her to shut up. Because what she has to say is simply not mainstream enough.
And when flaky shows up. I remind her to conform. Because hey, she’s simply not credible enough.
(Oh, and I won’t get started about what happens when I have a bad hair day.)
The list goes on. And I get it.
There are many so rules that tell us how we should show up.
And what that means is I can spend a lot of time conditioning on my self expression. Really only sharing myself and my work when mega-inspiration hits.
But’s it’s not enough. Not for me.
I want it all.
Inspiring, intelligent, credible AND flaky, weird, random.
The full range of the magic and mundane in my mind.
So what if we get to choose how we play with the rule book?
And decide, if how we show up makes us feel more liberated in our self-expression, we’re going for that.



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